తప్పు ఎవరిది?
నువ్వు ఒకరి చేతిలో మోసపోతే అది మోసం చేసినవాడి గొప్పతనం అదే మనిషి చేతిలో మరొక సారి మోసపోతే అది నీ చేతకాని తనం నాకు అతనితో ఆరు సంవత్సరాల స్నేహం. రెండు కంపనీలలో జాబు ఇప్పించి నాను. జాబు లో చేరినప్పుడు, నేను ఉన్నంత కాలం పాటు, కంపని లో జాబు చేస్తాను అని మాట ఇచ్చినాడు . నా ఇంటిలో, మాలో ఒకడిగా తిరిగినాడు. కొంతకాలని కి అతనికి పెళ్లి అయినది. ఆవిడ గారు పెరిగినది పూరి పాకలో అయిన, మా దగ్గర, మైసూరు మహారాణి లాగ పోజు కొట్టేది. అతను కూడా , నేను తనకి జాబు ఇప్పించి నటులు భార్య కు చెప్పలేదు. పెళ్లి ఐన తరువాత, పెళ్ళాం మాటలు విని, స్నేహితులతో గొడవ పెట్టుకున్నాడు. ఆరు నెలల పెళ్ళాం చెప్పిన మాటలు విని ఆరు సంవత్సరాలు స్నేహితులతో గొడవ పెట్టుకున్న మనిషిని ఏమి అనాలి? ఇద్దరమూ కలిసి అపార్టుమెంటు కొందామని వెతుకుట మొదలుపెట్టినాము. ఇద్దరమూ కలసి ఒకే చోట కొనాలని, వెతుకుట మొదలు పెట్టినాము. కొన్నిచోట్ల ఒక మంచి అపార్టుమెంటు దొరికిన, ఇద్దరికీ కావాలని, వదిలివేఉట జరిగినది. ఇంతలో, అయన గారి పక్కింటి అయన తన అప్పర్త్మేంట్ తక్కువ రేటు కి అమ్ముతాను అనిచేప్పేనారట. నాకు చెప్పకుండా భార్య భర్త వెళ్లి చూసి వచ్చినారు. వచ్చిన తరువాత, తన పెళ్ళానికి ఆ అపార్టుమెంటు పిచ్చ పిచ్చ గా నచ్చినదని చెప్పనాడు. అంటే తను ఇక నాతొ అపార్టుమెంటు కొనదలుసుకోవడం లేదని పరూక్షంగా చెప్పినాడు . మొదటి సారి మోసపోయాను . ఆఫీసులో మాత్రమూ పని బాగానే చేయసాగాడు. కొన్ని నెలలు గడసినతరువత తను నాదగ్గరకి వచ్చి , తనకి వేరే చోట వుద్యోగం దొరకినదని, జీతం ఎక్కువ అని చెప్పినాడు . తను మూడు నెలలు గా ట్రై చేసానని, ఇప్పుడు దొరికినదని చెప్పినాడు. మూడు నెలలు గా ట్రై చేసిన, neenu ఒక్క సారి కూడా తనని అనుమానించా లేదు. ఎందుకంటే నాతొ పాటు ఉంటానని ఇచ్చిన మాట మీద నిలబడతాడు అనుకున్నాను. డబ్బులు కొరకు కక్కుర్తి పడి నన్ను మోసం చేస్తాడని అనుకోలేదు. రెండవ సారి మోసపోయాను. పెళ్ళానికి, నావలన జాబు వచ్చినదని చెప్పివుంటే, తను నన్ను మోసం చేయవద్దని చెప్పి ఉండేది. తను గతం మరచి పోయాడు. తనకి ప్రస్తుతం వస్తున్నా జీతం, టీము లో అందరికంటే ఎక్కువ. జీతం పెరిగినప్పుడు కూడా, తనకే అందరికంటే ఎక్కువ ఇప్పించినాను. కానీ పెళ్ళాం మాట విని నన్ను, మోసం చేసినాడు. మా బాసు, ఇతనిని ఆఫీసులో ఉంచడానికి, జీతం పెంచామంటావా అని అడిగినారు. డబ్బు కోసం పోయేవాడి ని, నేను నమ్మదలుచు కో లేదు. పోనివ్వండి అన్నాను. వేరే ఉద్యోగం చూసుకొనే ముందు, నాకు డబ్బులు ఎక్కువ కావలి అని చెప్పివుంటే, నేనే ఇప్పించి ఉండేవాడిని. కానీ తను అది చేయలేదు. |
indulo athanu neeku chesina droham kaani, nashtam kaani naaku emee kanapadaledu. mosapoyaananukovadam kevalam nee feeling maathrame. pellayyaaka friend anevaadi behaviuor lo khachchitham gaa thedaa kanapaduthundi. dooram gaa vellevaadini vellanee... kaani vaadu mosam chesaadu... friend kaadu anukonakkaraledu. okariki saayam chesaamante yemee aasinchakundaa saayam cheyaali. daanilone aanandam untundi.
ReplyDeletebathukutheruvu kosam neepai aadhaarapade position lo unna nee friend ipudu jeevitham lo neepai aadhaarapadanakkaraleni position ku edigaadani santhoshinchu. OK...Ok...ok...inka naa suththi aaputhaanu...
job lo chere mundu, atanu naaku maata icchinaadu "neenu ikkada unnanta kaalam, naato untanani". naa badha anta, maata tappi naanu mosam chesadani. post lo cheppnatlu, veere chota job chusukone mundu, naa daggaraki vachchi, naaku ee problem vundi, kanuka neenu vellu po dalachu kunnanu ani cheppi unte, nenu ataniki emi cheyaleka pote, appudu nene atanini vere chota ku velli pomani cheppevadini. tana problem nato discuss chesukoleni stiti lo atanu ledu. tana problems anni naato cheppi naa salaha teesukunnadu.
ReplyDeletejabu dorikinadani cheppina taruvata, atanini "naku cheppa kunda enduku vere chota jobu vetikinaavu? naaku ichina maata gutuleda?" ani adigite, ataninundi emi samadhanamu ledu.
deenini, MOSAM kaaka emi nataru.
atanini, enta gaa nammanante, 3 nelalu ga, tani jobu koraku try chesunndani, okka saari kuda anumanichaledu. paiga, atanu kurchonedi kooda na desk pakkane.
nenu, jeevitam lo, chaala mandiki, job ippinichnanu, chaala mandiki recommended checinanu. varu, aa jabu lo cherina taruvata, emi chesaru annadi naaku teliyadu.
kaani, itanu naaku, naato untanai mata icchinaddu. maata tappi mosam chesadu
I understand your situation. Its not exactly cheating from his side.
ReplyDeleteAs a friend, you helped him, and you expected that he will be faithful to you. He was your friend, and he needed a breakthrough, you just helped him out. But, It doesn't mean that, he should be with the same company. Everyone plans their career, and grows accordingly. You people got some communication gap, because of which, he wasn't informed you, about his. He might not want make it public about his resignation.
If you were his real friend and found him that he really skilled, you should have suggested your boss to give salary hike to him. Everyone works for money, and 99.999% people changes company for salary hike.
Nobody predicts future. You may need your friend's help in future. Just stop saying 'I helped him...'. Something good will happen to you, if you really helped him. God is there to take care of this.
My only question to him was why he promised me that he will continue with me? he should answer that to me. if do not answer me and leaves me like this, i consider the act as CHEATING only.
ReplyDeleteFew other points:
Its the second company in which i have referred him. in both the places, he was rejected in the first round and i request for another interview.
In that round also his performance was average. But, I requested them give him a chance. I know, how many people are there, who are looking for ONE CHANCE. In fact, I have referred him in a third company also. Again, he was rejected there also. I could not arrange another round because, I have not joined the company by that time. I was his REAL friend, that is why I have referred him, where ever I joined. In the current company, even though he was rejected, I recommended him with 60% hike. When he left the company, he got 140% hike in total. How much more he wants? does he forgot what he was before joining this company?
As you said, why I have not tried to increase his salary when he planned to leave. I have mentioned the answer for this in my post but I will repeat again. What is the guarantee that, he will continue with me for at least one more year? what is the guarantee that he will not CHEAT me again by looking for another job with the new increment.
Second: As I mentioned in the post, he cheated me when we were looking for purchasing an apartment also.
Third: When i helped somebody, then why should not I say that "I helped him". I too got help from many people and, I do not hesitated in telling that I got help for that person.
Four. He is not just a colleague for me. he a friend and a family member. He stayed in my house for few months, he tied RAKHI to my wife. Don't you feel CHEATED for what he did.
Finally, it might look like i am creating a big issue. When your right hand (this is what I told him many times. He is my right hand) cheats to then you will feel what I am going through.
I am not going to stop helping others. If I have some thing in my hand which will help others (not at the cost of my lose) I will continue to help.
Hi
ReplyDeleteI am a regular visitor to your blog. I like all the posts except this. I am describing my views on this post. Take it positively.
1. I observed that your are suffering from EGO feeling. As per my understand your friend got salary more than your or equal to you. As a friend you should proud. You said he was your friend from past 6 years. As you said like this for your friend you are unfit for the friend ship.
2. I completely agree with Raghuveer's comments. In IT field or any field all are working for salary only. Are you working for Service? I dont think.
3. Is it your first company? Are you working in this company from begining? In IT field most of the people changes company frequently. If it is your first company really I salute to you.
If not why did you leave your previous companies, Not for salary hike? Companies will give us the job with the assumption of we will continue in this job. If we quit after 2 or 3 years, are we doing MOSAM for the company? Why dont you think like that.
4. And you should not bring ladies into this type of Blogs or discussion. You should not tell like this about your friend's wife. So you are compltely unfit for the Friendship.
5. I think, Self evaluation is best. Evaluate yourself. Think it positively. In this six years of your friendship you did not get any help from him? Whether it is small or big, no matter, help is help.
Take it positively. Post useful posts not like this.
First off all, you did not dared to disclose our identity. Is up to you.
ReplyDelete1. If I have EGO feelings then I will not help anybody. I will just show my ego feelings others and nobody will be my friend. If I have EGO, I will not keep that guy in my home as a family member. As you said, Yes, I am UNFIT TO BE A FRIEND FOR A CHEATER. I REPEAT A CHEATER. I, considered him as my friend and a family member, that is why I have not doubted him even though he started CHEATING me since 4 months.
I think you are in DAY DREAMING that, he is getting salary more than me. How do you know? I am far ahead of him and I do not consider this as a great thing for me. I am not that type. When I referred him in this company, I asked my manager to give 80% more that what he was getting. within 7 months, again I requested for increment and it happened. So, If I think that, if he gets more then he will be competitor for me then I would not have suggested for salary increment. After doing all this, I am UNFIT to be a friend for a CHEATER.
2. Yes, in IT industry, every body works for money. I also left companies for money, I have my kept my commitment before leaving the company. When I promised that, I will serve them for at least one year. Second day, After joining the company, I got a call from another company with double salary offer. But, I sticked to my word. Served the company for one year. I left the company, because they could not give the increments. So, every body works for money only, but do not PROMISE for anything, if you promise then KEEP IT. DO NOT CHEAT.
3. Companies will give the job with the assumptions that we will continue with them only. But I referred him with the assurance that "He Will continue with me". If he leaves then company will get somebody else, I am bothered about me, the PROMISE that he gave me.
4. I have the full right to bring ladies into my issue. I know, she is the one behind all this. I want to tell me live experience here.
I referred his boss in one of my previous company for a job. For some reasons it did not worked out. I met him only once on that day. After that I got an offer in another company. When they gave the offer letter to me, they told that, they still have some more openings, and if I know anybody, then I can refer. It reminded me the boss of this guy. I call him and informed about the position. He attended the interview and he joined there. Once I went to his home for the first time, he told his wife that "He is so and so and because of him only I got the job".
This guy did't told like this. He told his wife that, he got the job in all the companies with "HIS OWN TALENT". Yes he got a great talent, which I could not identify in 6 years. His wife told this many times to my family members that HE GOT ALL THE JOBS WITH HIS OWN TALENT. So, his wife do not know that, it was not an easy walk for him to get into the company. She do not know that, I helped him in getting the job. So, she might have told him that, money is main, leave the company. If she knows that, somebody helped him in getting the job, he made a promise, then a person with some humanity will say that, "please think, do not CHEAT"
5. I never told that he did not helped me. He was a family member for me. In our six years friendship, we helped each others.
Since beginning of this post, my only question was "Why he promised me that, he will stay with me as long as I work here?. When he promised why he did not kept his promise. Why he CHEATED me twice."
I trusted him so blindly that, I never doubted that he is looking for a change. ...Cotinue
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ReplyDeleteYes, you are right, I am not FIT for being a friend of CHEATER, because, I am his friend, the I have to CHEAT.
So, I am not fit to be a friend for him.
Just to tell my character, he only told one day that, when he was watching the movie Aa Naluguru ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aa_Naluguru), the main character remained me. Then I told him that, I am not that great to think like that, I will help anybody if I am not going to lose anything.
And you are questioning about my character.
In this, I wanted to share my experience, how I was cheated. Whether its useful to you are not is up to you.
Even my career is not a cake walk for me. I struggled a lot and I do not wanted him to struggle like that, so wherever I joined, referred him so that he can grow.
Just imagine one thing, he was rejected in the interview here. (I am not saying, I got selected in all the interviews that I attended). But, to help him to grow and get into a big company, i told the Director to take him with my assurance. When, I told that director that, this guy wants leave, what if he asks me that "you referred him and he is leaving now" what will happen to my credibility. Will he consider my referrals in future.
He is so trust on me that, he asked me, if I want, he can talk to the management to increase his salary. But, I said NO, because
What is the guarantee that, he will continue with me for at least one more year? what is the guarantee that he will not CHEAT me again by looking for another job with the new increment.
Finally, I am sure you will visit this site again to see my reply.
I am Pavan, Working in a small company in Hyderabad. I think there details are enough for you.
ReplyDeleteI dont know you and you dont know me, so there is no question of Dare, I can write anything. But why have written only related to you. Have you think of it? No, you are judging people blindly. Without knowing the reasons.
Try to give comments without login to Blogspot and give your name at Commect as list box, and see How it will come.
I did the same thing thing, Now also I will do the same thing. I dont know whether it will give name or Ananymous.
No need to give explanation to this. Because I will not come back to you blog ever.
Bye
Pavan
I am sure you will come back to see my reply.
ReplyDeleteLike you gave your name now, you could give your name previously also.
By looking into my blog you judged me, and by staying with a person i judged him an my judgment was wrong. I trusted a cheater.
My only question to him is "why he promised me to work with me and cheated me by not telling me that he want change." Ethically what he did is correct or wrong?
Bye the bye Mr Pavan (??) how do u know that he worked with me for 2 years?
ReplyDeleteHow do you know that he is getting more salary than me? Did he told you? You guessed BLINDLY.
ఇందులో మోసమేముంది?! ఈ కారణాలై వుండవచ్చు:
ReplyDelete1) అతనికి లాభసాటి దారి చూసుకున్నాడు
2) మీదగ్గర వుండటం తనను మంచిది కాదని అనుకుని వుంటాడేమో
3) స్నేహితులు ఎందరైనా వుండోచ్చు, కాని భార్య ఒక్కరే కదా
ఈమాత్రానికే ద్రోహం అంటూ ఓ స్నేహితుడిని దూరం చేసుకోవడం అవివేకం. Self pity అంత మంచిది కాదు.
ద్రోహం చేశాడంటే ... మీకోసం ఓ ప్రత్యేక రాష్ట్రం కోరుతూ, బూతులు తిడుతూ ఉద్యమాలు చేయండి, తెలంగాణ కావాలా? :P
మీ దృష్టిలో బూతులు తిట్టడం మోసం కావచు. నా దృష్టిలో మాట ఇచ్చి తప్పడం మోసం. కాబట్టి తను నాద్రుస్టిలో మోసోగాడే.
ReplyDeleteఎవరి చేతిలో అయిన నువ్వు మోసపోయినప్ప్డు అప్పుడు తెలుస్తుంది
He should have answered to you at the exit at least ...
ReplyDeleteand more money always creates more problems only, and he is going to miss you for sure..
changing a company just for more pay never helps...he will have his lesson in right time..
and you should not worry for it...instead please feel happy for knowing his reality before you buy a house as his neighbor . also it could be you only insisted to buy a flat in same apartment .and he is interested to stay away, which is fine...forget about cheating etc..Nature observes every thing ..take it easy !
Thanks for understanding the situation. That was the only question to him and he do not have any answer to this.
ReplyDeleteAfter staying in your home also if he did like this, then you might have done something wrong with him
ReplyDeleteమా ఆవిడ అతనికి భోజనము లో ఉప్పు వేసి పెట్టలేదు.
ReplyDeleteమీకు కొన్ని విషయాలు చెప్పాలి. ఏ విధముగా వీటిని అర్థం చేసుకుంటారో మీ ఇష్టం. మీ మూలముగా ఎంతమందికి జాబు వచ్చినదో మాకు తెలుసు, జాబు వచ్చిన వారికి తెలుసు. మీ సహాయపడే గుణము ను మార్చుకోవద్దు. ఇక అతని విషయానికి వస్తే,
ReplyDeleteమోసం చేయడం అతనికి కొత్త కాదు. ప్రేమిచానని చెప్పి రెండు సవంత్సరాలు ఒక అమ్మయితో తిరిగి నాడు. నీవు లేక పొతే బ్రతకలేనన్నాడు. ఆ అమ్మాయిని వదిలి వేరే అమ్మాయిని పెళ్లి చేసుకున్నాడు.
పార్ట్ టైం గా ఒక ప్రాజెక్ట్ చేస్తానని చెప్పి మధ్య లో వదిలేసినాడు. పాపం , ఆ ప్రాజెక్ట్ తెచ్చిన అతను తను సొంతం గా చేసుకూవలసి వచ్చినది.
ఒక రకముగా మీరు అదృష్టవంతులు. మీతో ఆరు సవంత్సరాలు ఉన్నాడు. లేదంటే 2 సవంత్సరాలు లోపే మిమ్మలిని వదిలేయాలి. కాని మీతో ఆరు సవంత్సరాలు ఉన్నాడు. బహుసా మీనుంచి బాగా సహాయము పొంది, తరువాత వదిలేయ వచ్చు అనుకోని మీతో ఉండవచు. మిమ్మల్ని ఉపయోగించుకొని ఎదిగాడు, ఇప్పుడు మీ అవసరం తీరిపోయినది. మీరు తనకి అన్ని సార్లు జాబు ఇప్పించికపోతే తను ఎక్కడ ఉండేవాడో మాకు తెలుసు.
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